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Eight Letters

We became the parade on the streets that we once cleaned
Expendable soldiers smiling at anything
Raised on a feeling our lives would have meaning eventually

We were once the answer and then you discover
You're actually just one thing after another
And what was the question and why was the lesson so deafening?

This is all that matters now
And that was all that happened anyhow
You can look back but don't stare
Maybe I can love you out of there

And when I went away what I forgot to say
Was all I had to say:
Eight letters, three words, one meaning

And outside forces didn't make it easy
So I thought I'd go before you leave me
Self-preservation was no explanation for anything

But the truth is more than we'll ever comprehend
I'm just starting to understand, my friend
All of that distance, 'cause I fell in love with the enemy

This is all that matters now
And that was all that happened anyhow
You can look back but don't stare
Maybe I can love you out of there

And when I went away what I forgot to say
Was all I had to say:
Eight letters, three words, one meaning

And when I went away what I forgot to say
Was all I had to say:
Eight letters, three words, one meaning

At last, we meet on no man's land
Just footprints in the sand
We meet on no man's land, at last

And when I went away what I forgot to say
Was all I had to say:
Eight letters, three words, one meaning

And when I went away what I forgot to say
Was all I had to say:
Eight letters, three words, one meaning

One meaning
Just one meaning


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Gay Parody

over the wkend, i got the chance to witness yet again the multi dimensional dynamics of gay relationships..

a fren was moody due to problems in his relationship with his bf who already has another bf.
so my fren is in one of those infamous gay model relationships called a 3 way or happy family.
my fren is upset that his bf is breaching some sort of fidelity issue with a 4th guy...

think my fren is a retard. geesh.

what claims of fidelity does my fren have over his bf whom was already attached to another guy?
dun think fren was very happy when i pointed out this tiny little fact.

really, men are all pigs. and u really cant change the pig.

so the question wld be, do u want to resign and accept this and continue to carry on your current dynamic? or kill it and move on? we all have choices, you have a choice. make it count regardless which option u choose.
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for ppe who can and is willing to read chinese... it is a very good read. 給於那些能和會讀中文的。。。。佷貼的一篇文章。

單身的原因

妳發現,年紀越大,越是很難和另外一個人在一起。

原因不是因為條件。妳還是很多人喜歡,和年華正茂的時候一樣。妳活得比以前更好,開始能喝出紅酒的不同。妳不再像年輕的時候一樣任性,動不動就發脾氣。妳把自己當成在投資的藝術品,運動、保養、化妝,讓妳看不出來年紀。

也不是因為對愛情死心。妳去參加朋友的婚禮,想到新人好不容易走到這裡,妳總會紅了眼睛。妳經過前男友租過的房子,想起妳們一起在Ikea買的家具。朋友們想要幫妳介紹,妳會精心打扮出席。

妳卻一直都單身。每年站在生日蛋糕前,都希望身邊有另外一個人一起許願。一些客氣的場面,有人來搭訕的場合,沒有人相信妳是單身。他們給了一個省事的結論:妳太挑了,希望妳降低標準。妳在心裡面笑:所以是其他人都不挑?

可是妳自己知道,為什麼不能好好談一場戀愛。就是因為,妳太清楚了自己是怎樣的一塊料,所以不能再輕而易舉的把自己交出去。就像是,有一天妳發現跌倒以後的傷口,會開始留下疤痕,妳走路不再大步跨出去。

因為,妳慣性太強、記性太好。妳認識一個人很簡單,忘記一個人很困難。妳曾經心滿意足的閉上眼睛,讓妳愛的人帶妳去任何地方,最後差點回不來。所以不能再失去方向感。

於是妳就變得膽小了。以前妳喜歡男生有幽默感,現在妳在乎安全感。以前妳打電話找不到人就拼命的打,現在妳發了簡訊沒有回應,睡覺前就關機。以前妳最有興趣的話題是對方的過去,現在妳先關心這是不是一份有未來的感情。

所以,週末的晚上,妳寧願和一群朋友喝酒,也不問約會對象今天有沒有空。妳早就已經下班,還在公司觀察朋友的MSN 和Facebook動態。妳安慰自己,有朋友也很好,一個人生活也很好。妳忘記了當另外一個人女朋友的感覺,被攜伴的時候,要怎麼介紹自己。

只是,妳不是做了決定要單身,就像妳也沒有計畫過要用哪一隻手寫字。不過是既然如此了那就適應。妳想要有人一起去旅行,一起去看讓妳哭哭啼啼的電影。妳想和那樣的人說自己準備好了,只是沒有勇氣,只是請對方多點耐心。妳想說不再需要太多驚喜,在心裡等的是一份相依為命的感情,抬起頭來相視而笑,安心的生活,如此而已。
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straight??

"... when a straight man asks my why I like men I tell them it is the same reason they like women.

When they actually engage their brains they realise they never questioned why they like women and how silly the whole thing is usually.

It is even more fun when they actually suggest that I am gay cause I have not met the right woman and I ask them how much cock they sucked to realise they were straight.....

total kodak moment when that hits them hehe... "
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great stuff to share.... (thanks to leaflord)

From ~ http://gaytwogether.typepad.com/gaytwogether/

5 Deadly Relationship Mistakes That Gay Couples Can Make Whether you’re just starting out in a new relationship or have been long-term partners for many years, how does a gay couple maintain their relationship over the long haul and sustain that “magical spark” that drew them together in the first place? Relationships do require attention and focus, and this article will present five deadly mistakes that you can make that can wreak havoc in your partnership, almost ensuring conflict and unhappiness. Remedies will also be offered, and keeping these points in mind can help stave off relationship discord—and even prevent a potential breakup from ever being considered!

Deadly Mistake #5: Getting into predictable, monotonous routines: Once you get into the groove of your relationship, you can begin to feel comfortable with the safety and familiarity it breeds. However, in the long run, this can create a stale environment of boredom and “same-ness”, leading many couples to feel restless, unfulfilled, and “itching” for a change. Break out of that rut by bringing more spice and novelty to your relationship.

Shake things up a little bit and dare to be different! Surprise your lover with a night out on the town to break up the mundane workweek. Introduce more creativity and variety into your sex life. Keep him guessing and on his toes for what’s coming next. By bringing in a little more excitement and stimulation, the chemistry between the two of you will be nourished, reaffirming your connection and strengthening your bond.

Deadly Mistake #4: Making assumptions about what your partner thinks and does: Interpreting your partner’s thoughts and behavior through your own lens can spell disaster, especially when you make decisions based on these judgments. You cannot read minds and jumping to conclusions will only erode the trust and security of your relationship. Even if your guy has a history of responding in a certain way in given situations, it would behoove you to not jump to conclusions and generalize his actions, as he may alter his responses or have a different mindset. Always check things out with your partner to make sure you’re both “on the same page.” This will save you from a world of grief and insecurity.

Deadly Mistake #3: Not updating your relationship vision: Relationships grow and change over time, and so do the individuals in the partnership. Revisit from time-to-time with your partner about your hopes, dreams, aspirations, and goals for your relationship and yourself. This will help troubleshoot any “growing apart” tendencies by keeping the communication open. For example, with monogamy, some couples change their views on the role this plays in their relationship.

If you’re in a monogamous relationship and want to open it up, don’t just act upon it without dialoguing about it with your partner first. And if you have an open relationship, don’t assume you and your partner share the same views about it as time goes on. Revisit your “relationship contract” to ensure genuine agreement still exists, avoid making assumptions, and don’t be afraid to bring up difficult topics of discussion. It’s better to hash it out than to act it out to protect the foundation of trust you’ve built.

Deadly Mistake #2: Not attending to each other’s needs: We all have needs, and relationships are a great source for meeting the needs for belonging and attachment. Through communication and life experience with your partner, you’ll learn what matters most to him. Many couples destroy their relationships by taking each other for granted and failing to attend to the needs of the other in the ways he likes them to be met. Schedule a “family meeting” with your partner at least once a month to talk about your relationship and how it’s going. What’s going well? Not so well? Are you in alignment with your relationship vision? Make a list of your needs and share them with your partner, making a conscious effort to be more attentive and proactive.

Deadly Mistake #1: Not making your relationship a priority: Life is stressful. Between the demands of work, family, friends, school, hobbies, and all the other obligations you may have, your relationship with your partner can really take a hit. Those couples who take their relationship for granted are writing a prescription for its demise. Try to work hard at creating more life balance to juggle all the roles you have to avoid neglecting your relationship. Imagine your relationship with your partner is a nucleus.

You must protect your nucleus from all external, outside forces. Don’t allow them to penetrate through or you risk jeopardizing the health and wellness of your relationship! Your partner is your home and haven. Let him be your number one priority above all else. Make him feel special and appreciated. Schedule “date nights”, surprise him with gifts of adoration, plan a commitment ceremony, etc. Do anything you’re comfortable with that will validate and affirm your relationship as the blessing it is—and cherish it!

Conclusion: So there you have it—five deadly mistakes that can compromise the success of a gay relationship. By applying some of these possible solutions and brainstorming some of your own, you’ll be demonstrating your commitment to your relationship and honoring it in the way it deserves. This will promote more gratification and functionality in your partnership, solidifying your bond as a couple, and creating a level of bliss unlike no other. Cheers to your success!

©2006 Brian L. Rzepczynski

Brian Rzepczynski, Certified Personal Life Coach, is The Gay Love Coach: “I work with gay men who are ready to create a road map that will lead them to find and build a lasting partnership with Mr. Right.” To sign up for the FREE Gay Love Coach Newsletter filled with dating and relationship tips and skills for gay singles and couples, as well as to check out current coaching groups, programs, and teleclasses, please visit http://www.thegaylovecoach.com/
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Putting the clock back to find happiness (old post)

The humanist Pico of Miradola (1463 - 93) pointed out that human beings are not entirely like other animals. All other animals have a definite nature that they cannot change. Humans have been given an indefinitely nature and thus the ability to mould themselves. The rest of creation is passive; humans alone ahve an active nature. They were created; we could create.

When unhappiness strikes, we can recognise what is happening to us and refuse to accept it. We are free to change the way in which we think and act. Man is everywhere in chains yet, everywhere can be free. We can change the way that we think about external events, even where we cannot change them. And we can do something more. We can intelligently change our exposure to events that make us either happy or unhappy.

- The 80/20 Principle



Things are not well on job front. But i have the power to make things happen, choices i can pick from. I am not powerless or helpless. Br brave, must have courage, must have abit of faith.
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Hold on - Michael Buble



Didn't they always say we were the lucky ones?
I guess that we were once
Babe, we were once

But luck will leave you cause
It is a faithless friend
And in the end when life has got you down
You've got someone here that you can wrap your arms around

So hold on to me tight
Hold on to me tonight
We are stronger here together
Than we could ever be alone
So hold on to me
Don't you ever let me go

There's a thousand ways for things to fall apart
But it's no one's fault
No it's not my fault

Maybe all the plans we made might not work out
But I have no doubt even though it's hard to see
I've got faith in us and I believe in you and me


So hold on to me tight
Hold on, I promise it'll be alright
Cause it's you and me together
And baby all we've got is time
So hold on to me, hold on to me tonight

There's so many dreams that we have given up
Take a look at all we've got
And with this kind of love
What we've got here is enough

So hold on to me tight
Hold on, I promise it'll be alright
Cause we are stronger here together
Then we could ever be alone
Just hold on to me

Don't you ever let me go
Hold on to me, it's gonna be alright
Hold on to me tonight

They always say we were the lucky ones
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